Through a collection of essays, Adrian Gabriel Dumitru explores the paradoxical idea of having everything yet nothing, and vice-versa, within the context of a relationship. He argues that true happiness lies not in material possessions or societal expectations, but in cherishing the present moment and the connection shared with one’s partner.
What I specifically loved in that book was the lack of a rigid structure that allows for a more organic exploration of the central theme.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru’s writing is introspective and relatable, making Philosophy of Nothing a worthwhile read for anyone seeking a deeper understanding of love, relationships, and the pursuit of happiness.
The book “PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING” is a collection of essays that are trying to send the message that in a relationship you can be happy even if you don’t have a real relationship togheter, in a clasical way, but also be unhappy when you have everything togheter. Having everything, but actually having nothing … having nothing, but actually having everything is an idea that we should meditate on it. We live in a world of unhappy marriages, that should be totally redefined, but actually are dying little by little, day by day … with no change from any of the 2 partners. Wainting for NOTHING for years, doing NOTHING … but expecting everything from the other side. Love is not math and will never be. Love is not a business and will be never be. Philosophy of NOTHING is trying to define the beautiful side, but also the dark side of the love stories. The book does not have any architecture and is just a collection of essays. And maybe the only message of the book is quite simple: to be happpy you probably need NOTHING, but enjoy the present moment with the person you are in the story. Daring to do it … you don’t need anything, cause you actually have everything, the love story itself.
The central metaphor of the human as an actor playing contradictory roles resonates deeply, prompting introspection on our own ever-shifting identities.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru skilfully navigates the complexities of good and bad, angel and devil, highlighting the inherent duality within each of us.
While this book delves into weighty philosophical concepts, it remains accessible through the author’s candid self-reflection and straightforward prose.
The fragmented sentences and informal tone create a sense of intimacy, as if the reader is engaging in a personal conversation with the author.
We have the chance … but also the duty … to play lots of roles during this life time. We like some of those roles… and maybe even adore it … but also dislike many of the things we have to do .. as actors on the stage of reality. If i would analyse myself into an honest way … i would even dare to say that i played one million roles …. being an angel … but also many times … a devil. Like all the others …. i’ve played so, so contradictory roles … that into the end … i would not even know how to define myself …. So … was i a good person?! Or was i … a bad person?! Hmm … The most ridiculous conclusion was that most probably i was a positive … but also a negative character on the stage of reality. I was just dominated … by duality. I had to accept it …. and also that there is no real definition for myself. I was good … bad … neutral … and … Every definition… could be true … or false … for myself. And all i had to do was to accept that as part of the scenario called … my life.
Author Adrian Gabriel Dumitru masterfully uses the metaphor of inserting a coin to highlight the necessary investment – whether it be time, effort, or resources – required to manifest our desires. He doesn’t shy away from the often uncomfortable truth that dreams don’t materialize without action.
This book’s strength lies in its relatable narrative. Adrian Gabriel Dumitru’s personal anecdotes about grappling with his own desires and the lessons he learned along the way make the concepts presented easily digestible and applicable.
I loved Adrian Gabriel Dumitru’s writing style, it is somewhat unconventional and effectively conveys the internal dialogue many of us experience when confronting our aspirations.
Having dreams is …. normal. We also see people having clear goals … and it’s quite interesting… looking like a more organised person which is dreaming. … on and on and on. And the truth is … that the human being could be defined as a machine … that is always coming up with new and new desires. I look into my past … and i see myself saying in front of the Universe … i want that and that … and that. And … i can’t stop myself … even if i know that same as Budha said … the desire itself is the source of all the human pain. I smile realising how i’ve wasted my life chasing for on million contradictory desires. … but also honestly realising … this is a non ending story. So … starting a weird process of self therapy… analysing all those desires … especially the ones that obsessed myself … I’ve finally concluded that in fact … i want more to “taste” those desires. It was like i loved Rolls Royce… and i wanted to drive such an amazing car … but i did not really wanting to pay such a huge price for this car …. the maintenance … the taxes …the insurance etc. In fact … all i wanted was to … drive it … for a while … and enjoy the sensation of doing it. And the list of similar desires … was so damn long … So … i wanted that … and that and that … hoping in fact that … i’ll get some sensations… which will bring me nice vibes into my soul. But …. It was only one problem. I did not really wanted to … pay the price. Almost … for any of those desires which were dominating obsessively my existence. Time was passing … and i was somehow ending all the time … being sad and disappointed…. cause my desires did not became real. Not all of them … but many. But … i’ve also noticed with some of those weird desires which i had …. that they were not what I’ve imagined. It was indeed all … illusory. I could simple try and test all … simple paying a price … like renting the Rolls … and see if i really want such a car. It was not that i could afford it … but i could try to taste it … by paying a minimum price for that … only to understand better if that was a good path to follow or not. I had to insert … a coin. But i was not really ready to do it. Yes … not even pay … a vey little price for it. I was just dreaming … so nicely pretending i have clear goals with my life … but all i was doing was to allow being dominated by those illusory desires. And this moment when i’ve understood i have only 3 choices… my life changed. Firstly … I could … stop dreaming. Or i could pay the price of getting that desire … and stop being so stupid … believing that a great dream … costs 2 pennies. Or … i could simple …. “taste” a little bit that desire …. see if i really want it … and then decide if i delete that obsession from my mind … or not. So … all was about … insert coin … paying the price for it … or …. simply stop myself dreaming with my eyes opened… like an idiot.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru’s personal journey, described with raw honesty, resonates deeply. He eloquently portrays the struggle with “spiritual blindness” and the eventual realization that life hinges on managing these energies.
This book effectively mirrors the author’s internal struggle and gradual awakening. It isn’t a prescriptive guide but rather an intimate exploration of self-discovery, offering valuable insights for those seeking a deeper understanding of themselves and the world around them.
It encourages introspection and offers a fresh perspective on navigating the complexities of life.
Highly recommended for anyone interested in personal growth and spiritual exploration.
I had no idea about the fact that life is a lot related with the energies beyond ourselves. The ones generated by our ideas, thoughts, feelings … and in fact all is in our heart … or mind. I was not aware of the influences came from this side … not even thinking for a second that soon … all these energies will be metamorphosed into … dominance. And i continued my life like that for years. … having no idea what the nonsense is. Believing … it’s real … … and also that its appearance on the scene of life… it’s normal. … us not being able to do anything against that. There were moments when i could actually see some of the ideas of why some things beyond reality influence so much the present moment …. but i was indeed … blind. I was suffering of … spiritual blindness. Time passed again … and my life … becoming kind of a nightmare … i realised i need to change something. But what?! I had … absolutely no idea. Well … until … thinking deeper and deeper … and accepting the influences came from my thoughts and emotions …. but also that people around myself were having their own thoughts and emotions … sometimes in total contradiction with my own …. All i had to do … was to learn how i manage those energies … so i finally accept that life is about the art of managing energies. … understanding them. … connecting and disconnecting from them … but … There was always … a but. I was balancing between accepting and not accepting that … even if i had to do it. In fact … it was … a must. I really had to learn this art of managing energies. … my own energies. … but also the ones generated by the ones from the scene of my life. And i had only 2 options. To continue allowing the nonsense to dominate my life … or start to act like a magician … that knows to metamorphose everything … in whatever i would want. … but with good intentions! Well … time passed again … and my weird emotional dance … kept dominating my being. I was believing and … not believing. … allowing into this way … as the nonsense to continue its role. On … and on … and on.
The narrative unfolds through a deep, honest dialogue between two souls—each embodying the masculine and feminine perspectives—who embark on a reflective journey of discovery.
The authors engage in what they call a “philosophical dance,” contemplating the volatile nature of feelings and desires. The writing is a blend of poetic musings, thoughtful conversations, and introspective reflections that encourage readers to examine their own views on love, reality, and human connection.
The book’s strength lies in its dual perspective, offering readers an engaging contrast between the male and female approach to understanding life’s deeper questions.
Dumitru’s reflections, combined with Arij’s insights, create a tapestry of thoughts that challenge conventional perceptions of reality, drawing readers into a profound contemplation of life’s transient and illusory nature.
THE ILLUSION ultimately reveals that despite the contrasts between our experiences and desires, at the core, we often share a single, unifying thought and invites readers to embrace the mysteries of life while appreciating the beauty in uncertainty.
To understand the world where you live in… you need to understand first the people from the timeline of your life. And once you start to understand it …. you suddenly realize that most of the feelings, desires and maybe thoughts were only … illusory things that dominated your life. Me and my dear Arij started a philosophical journey … which we sometimes even name philosophical dance. While dancing, we opened our hearts …. being very honest to each other … and concluded to a single thought …. one that defined life as an … illusion. Writing down all what we have in our souls …. we ended with a book in our hands …. all being in fact the philosophical poems of our hearts. Arij … as a young lady was listening to me … trying to understand how a man thinks. Me …. on the other side …. I was very happy to hear the female spirit and see the other side of the story, the one that a man can’t usually see. And the illusion … whispered to us so, so many times … that we had what to talk for many months in a row. Today is weird … and even funny to read one more time all what we wrote … and even if everything was written from the soul … still so many contradictory tendencies make us wonder if we should define volatility of feelings, desires and thoughts …. as evolution or part of the illusory process of believing we are … alive. We smiled … we laughed … and we always continued analyzing and defining all that we felt inside of our souls. Reading again all those poems … reading in fact the masculine and the feminine view about the inner world … the own inner world … we realized in the end that maybe we are not so different as we thought. We had … one single thought … and kept it in mind all the time. Opening our eyes … or closing them … we saw the inner and the outside world … always … illusory. We wanted to redefine this …. but we never succeed. All we could do … was simple … smile in front of everything … and continue the philosophical dance. But … we just … love doing it. On …. and on … and on.
Dumitru captures the emotional struggle that comes from indecision and the overwhelming doubt we often face when life presents us with multiple paths.
Through personal reflections, he highlights how critical it is to connect with one’s intuition to find balance and peace. His writing speaks to anyone who has struggled with overthinking, offering a path towards mental clarity and emotional harmony.
The author’s ability to break down complex emotions into relatable experiences makes this book both profound and accessible. He shows how understanding our thoughts can illuminate who we truly are, helping us better navigate life’s choices and challenges.
It’s a must-read for those looking to explore their inner world and find deeper self-awareness. With wisdom, humor, and candid introspection, Dumitru invites readers to step beyond indecision and embrace a more fulfilling way of living.
The human being has always been dominated … by contradictory thoughts and emotions. Maybe one of the worst diseases from the history of the world … worst even as cancer … sometimes without any possible treatment is the … doubt. And is funny, cause the Universe is playing around with us … giving us so, so many contradictory … options. I am laughing … going back in time and seeing myself in this weird situation of not being able to decide what to do … what to choose. Today i somehow believe that it’s better to have … no option …. or just one option, cause each time when i had 2 or more options … everything was too complicated. I had to think too much. … to meditate on and on and on. And when i decided i was still overwhelmed by …. doubt. Instead of being happy for the life i had, i was unhappy …. In fact somehow ruined emotionally and mentally of all what was going on with me. Everything was sometimes so amplified that i could not … continue the life itself. The Universe letted me decide what to do … but i was not capable of seeing the path … the real one. I was hearing into my head all the time … “What to do?! What to decide?! What should be the best?!” But i did not know what to do … what to decide … and instead of being happy for having so many opportunities … my vibe was always fucked up. And everything was like that cause i did not know how to close my eyes and connect to myself … asking to my intuition for guidance. The undecided version of myself, was a result of the fact that i did not know anything about my soul … and how to be in total harmony with this inner self. I did not know how to listen to all those voices … to my intuition … and keep the right balance between the inner and the outer world. And instead of being happy and a soul dominated by joy … i was in this silly emotional balance … dominated by a non ending indecision. I should name it today … the negative amplifier … and all what i want is just get rid of it. Nothing more.
The essays within bring readers on a journey through emotions that are at once deeply personal yet universally felt.
Dumitru’s writing feels like a meditation on love—its beauty, its unpredictability, and the profound connection it fosters between two people, even when the path seems unclear.
His reflections suggest that love isn’t always about where the path leads but rather about experiencing the joy of connection in the moment.
His philosophical musings draw the reader in, reminding readers of the power of living in the moment and embracing love with no expectations. The writing flows like a gentle stream of thought, providing comfort and inspiration.
LOVING is not just a collection of essays; it’s a love letter to the mysteries of life, reminding us to embrace love’s unpredictability while cherishing the moments of togetherness. Whether you are contemplating your own relationships or simply seeking inspiration, this book will leave you feeling enriched and emotionally connected.
Not understanding where the path goes He had … kind of a perfect life. At least this is how it looked from outside, but something was missing. Well … it was her again. He was missing seeing her … touching her … whispering her beautiful words. But who was … her?! The wife?! The mistress?! The mistress of that guy that hates him?! The lady from the shop … that is always smiling to him?! That lady … the client … that he is walking with her in park from time to time?! No … Maybe that lady, from an unknown country … that he chats with him when she feels really depressed?! No, no, no. It’s just that beautiful lady from a past life, that keeps appearing on and on and on. She disappears … says it is forever … then she’s changing her mind … thinking again how it should be … to try it one more time. Well … It was the perfect love story. Strong feelings on both sides. Perfect chemistry. Maybe even the moment when they met was perfect … even if it was not looking as that. But … they were on a pathless path … from the early beginning to the end that actually never came. Nobody around understood what is really going on. Not even the 2 of them. He wanted her … in his life … one more time. … and she wanted the same. The path?! Well … there is no real path or if it is one … that path actually goes in a direction we don’t really know about. But … this is the beauty of the real life. No plan. Spontaneity. Connection. … and expect having great experiences together … without expecting in fact anything at all from the partner. The love story … should be … a dance in 2, under the moon, a bottle of champagne, 2 glasses … whispering “i love you” all the time … and nothing much. A path … of joy … the joy of being together … one more time.
The author’s thoughtful essays are a blend of introspection and practical wisdom, exploring how disconnecting from emotions like anger, envy, and frustration is key to finding inner peace.
His reflective tone makes the book feel like a personal conversation, helping readers confront their own emotional battles.
For anyone seeking tranquility in a chaotic world, this book is a transformative read. Insightful, relatable, and deeply comforting, Dumitru’s message resonates long after the last page.
It’s a must-read for those looking to live with more intention, presence, and emotional freedom.
Disconnect … connect … disconnect again … re connect … seen as a circle of life. I try to understand life. But … it’s probably an illusory desire. Most probably … the real truth is that i want to know how can i totally disconnect from all what means negativity. Totally disconnect from …. unhappiness … and all what makes me feel … depressed. …. my anger, my frustrations, my envy, my jealousy, my …. all this large spectrum of negative feelings and emotions. And … i keep meditating. I keep … exploring. I pretend i want to know what this universe is … but all i want is to find out how i can be happy … or at least eliminate this sadness from my soul. And more i analyse… more i feel that it is all about … disconnecting. Cause …. yes … i can’t stop being angry if i don’t disconnect from the reasons why … i am angry. I can’t stop myself be jealous … if i don’t disconnect from the reasons why i am jealous. I can’t stop myself … envy someone … if i don’t totally disconnect from that person. I can’t stop being furious … if I don’t disconnect from the reasons why i am furious. But … i am too illogical to be able to stop being dominated by … sadness. Yes … too illogical. I could simple keep in mind those ideas … and the moment when i feel any negative vibe … try to understand right away why i feel that … and what i have to disconnect from. It is simple. But … maybe too simple for an idiot as myself. Fortunately … being my own therapist … I continue this charade of pretending i am sort of a philosopher or psychologist … trying in find to find out the reasons of my unhappiness. And … i keep analysing. More … and more … The funny thing is that … today … i trend to believe that a beautiful life is a lot related on the ability of being disconnected … from negativity. Cause … life itself is beautiful. So … maybe i should become more conscious … on the stage of life. Feel better … the energies … and be more selective …
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru’s The KARMIC CHARADE offers a unique and refreshing perspective on embracing both the positive and negative energies in life.
The book highlights that life’s challenges are karmic lessons, and Dumitru’s personal anecdotes of navigating through his own struggles provide deep wisdom for readers.
His playful yet profound approach to energy and karma encourages reflection and spiritual growth.
A must-read for those seeking harmony in life’s inevitable ups and downs.
Ugly events … are always karmic … and simple represent life lessons … unfortunately too difficult to be digested. I had times into my life … when all was collapsing around myself. All … all … I could not believe it. I was living … a non ending nightmare. I was waking up … and first thing i was doing was to ask myself … what the hell is going to happen to me again. Bottomline … it was horrible. And … i could not stand it anymore. But … unfortunately… i could not stop those ugly energetic waves around myself. I was meditating … asking myself … why?! I was even praying … saying … “God … stop it! Please …. I beg you!”. I felt … annoyed, frustrated … and even cursed … but i could not see any way out of this. I was in fact trapped … into a storm of ugly energies… which were ruining my soul. On … and on … and on. So … i’ve started to feel that i hate God for what was doing to me … but i could not accept that all was actually a karmic storm … having the purpose to remind me of all the stupid things i’ve done into my past. Today … i see a friend of mine living such a scenario. He’s … actually… not a real friend… but we have a good connection. I see him …. living a similar scenario with what happened to me. His businesses are collapsing. He has huge legal problems. He even lives with the impression that he is under the observation of the secret services. All his life … it’s a nightmare. But i also know his past and all the stupid things he had been done. Which in fact … are very similar with the mistakes … i’ve done. Today … he’s annoyed, frustrated … and feel cursed. Same as i’ve felt. He cannot handle anymore … And … i also see at him … a very weird thing i was thinking too into my tough times. He believes …. he was a good actor on the stage of life … and even a positive character. Seeing all like a total nonsense… instead of understanding deeper his past … i believe that … speaking with the Universe he asks … “Why are you doing this to me God?! Why?! Why this charade?!” But … all it’s actually a karmic charade. A flux of extremely powerful energies … looking like ugly events having the only purpose to destroy him. I look at him … and i smile. I continue listening to him … and i laugh. And … you might say that i am a bad person … laughing of my friend. Or … that i am even … evil. But … i am laughing… not of him …. but of me. Today … i see in his story … my own story … and the way i was playing into those times. I … somehow … start to understand the meaning of a karmic storm. And i also understand their whole meaning. Yes …. those powerful ugly energies … destroy us … but not the soul, as we might believe. No …. All it’s actually destroying … that ugly character i was interpreting. … and my friend was interpreting. And … we hated the Universe for that … defining the karmic storm … as a curse. But … it was a blessing. So … i continue laughing of my friend … laughing in fact … of how idiot i could be. Cause … i really thought … the Infinite Intelligence … lost its compass … but us the humans were in fact doing that … consciously and unconsciously …. by such a long, long time.
His Love. Her Fantasy by Adrian Gabriel Dumitru is a captivating journey through the emotional intricacies of love, desire, and the illusions we create in romantic relationships.
His Love. Her Fantasy reads like an intimate love letters exchanged between lovers, filled with tender reflections on love, desire, and the illusions they craft in their relationship.
With this book Adrian Gabriel Dumitru explores how love often blends with personal fantasies, highlighting the delicate dance between expectations and reality and challenging us to question whether we are chasing love or simply pursuing a fantasy of what we wish love to be.
His Love. Her Fantasy is both engaging and thought-provoking, leaving a lasting impression long after the final page is turned. Perfect for readers who wish to explore the fine line between love and illusion.
His love … Her fantasy … understanding what love is about. As friends, as a man, but also as a woman, we try to define the undefined from a love story. Dreaming about love and being in love … the path from the fantasy to the love story itself … is just a matter of luck … or maybe where you find yourself, on the timeline of your own life. Maybe is the perfect time for you to explore what love is about, or maybe other things are important at the moment … and the love story can only be a future “project”. Exploring what love is about … in our minds, as a fantasy … or in the real life, as a real love story … is depending only and only if we are ready or not. But what is the difference between fantasy and reality, when even the Bible is saying that everything we see is just an illusion? Well … i believe that the fantasy is only the begining of defining what we want … and the love story is the “experiment” itself. Is it too much to name a love story … an “experiment”?! Well … exploring … as a fantasy or as reality is letting your soul understand what love is about. And … sometimes is even a life lesson. The moment when you jump into the fairy tale … the real fantasy … and you understand the meaning of love … the fact that love is about giving and not about receiving … that is the moment when you also understand what life is about. Accepting your partner, just as he / she is … just as accepting all the people from our lives is the moment of awakening. Me, Adrian … and my dear Annie … are only trying to define the unseen path from fantasy to the love story itself. And also … let you know that this path is leading you to point when your thinking will be totally redefined. Life itself … is about love. Seeing what love is about … is understanding the meaning of life. If the “love chapter” started for you … even if it’s just a fantasy of reality … you should be happy. The awakening will come to you!
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