In What Do You Want?!: Philosophical Essays, Adrian Gabriel Dumitru takes readers on a contemplative journey through the tangled web of human desires, exposing the complexities of what we truly want in life and why so many of us remain unhappy despite our relentless pursuit of something “more”.
Dumitru’s reflective essays dive deep into the psyche, revealing how our desires are often illusions, shaped by external influences and unexamined emotions.
At the heart of the book lies a central, perplexing question: “What do we really want?” The author argues that the reason many of us remain dissatisfied is that we don’t really know what we want, and because of that, we chase after things that may not even bring us happiness. This endless search, according to the author, is rooted in a fairy-tale mindset—an idealised version of life that leads us to believe in the unattainable or the unrealistic, leaving us disappointed and disconnected from our true selves.
Dumitru’s essays encourage us to stop hiding from these obvious truths. We are often blind to what we already have, constantly desiring what is just out of reach. Ironically, as Dumitru points out, we actually want what we already have, but we are too caught up in the illusion of wanting something else to appreciate it.
One of the most intriguing themes in the book is Dumitru’s reflection on how the Universe plays a role in shaping our desires. He describes how, humorously and often frustratingly, the Universe tends to send him the exact contradictory of what he asks for, creating an illusion that this is actually what he wanted. This playful, cosmic irony serves as a reminder that our desires are often misunderstood, and what we think we want may not always be what we need.
Dumitru’s prose is lyrical and accessible, making complex philosophical ideas easy to grasp. His personal anecdotes and reflections give the book an intimate feel, as though the author is engaging in a direct conversation with the reader.
For those interested in self-awareness and personal growth, What Do You Want?! is a powerful and thought-provoking read. Adrian Gabriel Dumitru seamlessly blends philosophy and psychology, creating a work that not only challenges readers intellectually but also inspires them to reflect on their own lives.
We always want something.We always want … what we don’t have … or maybe can’t have. Or … what can’t belong to us. Saying “I want” … is a lot related with the world of desires … but carries lots of influences … which we don’t really know they exist. Rarely … i dare to ask … seeing myself doing lots of stupid things … “What do i want?! What do i really want?!” And … honestly speaking …. I can’t really find a logical explanation … in many of those occasions.
In this book, Dumitru paints a nuanced picture of what it means to fall in love and experience both the beauty and the darkness that inevitably follow.
At its core, the book attempts to study the art of living a love story—to understand how real love unfolds over time, complete with moments of joy, confusion, and heartbreak. The author suggests that in a true love story, everything must be in the first day. This concept highlights the notion that love, in its purest form, is immediate, intense, and deeply transformative from the outset, leaving both individuals forever changed from the moment they meet.
The author also delves into the life lessons that the Universe gives you through the ups and downs of a relationship. He reflects on how every love story, no matter how beautiful or painful, carries with it profound lessons—lessons about acceptance, understanding, and, perhaps most importantly, embracing both the light and the darkness in another person.
One of the more compelling themes in the book is the idea of “loving someone on silent mode”. The author explores the darker side of love, the silent suffering, and the unspoken feelings that can often dominate a relationship.
In addition to the emotional complexity, the author also examines the role of social media in love—how it can both connect and destroy, how modern technology influences romantic dynamics and how fragile love can be in the digital age.
The Beautiful and the Dark Side of a Love Story is a profound meditation on love in all its forms. Dumitru masterfully captures the tension between the fairy tale expectations we place on relationships and the gritty reality that often lies beneath. It’s a book for those who want to explore the full spectrum of love: the joy, the heartbreak, and the journey of accepting both the beautiful and the dark sides of the person they hold dear.
The beautiful and the dark side of a love story: Two adults find themselves in a mix-up of subjects and turn into something more
The book is trying to define the beautiful and the dark side from a man and a woman, that are in love of each other, but not as theory … but as a result of analysing facts that are happening on the timeline of the love story. It’s a book about a fairy tale, with 2 lovely characters that are not understanding, but also are not accepting that the meaning of an abstract love … or an impossible story is to enjoy only the beauty of what is going on. The 2 people from the essays get lost so many times, that not even the people around them can’t see if the story itself is real or not. But it’s all a journey of accepting the beautiful and the dark side from the person that you love so much. After the first period when you are blinded by love, it comes the second episode when you see that you are not in love with a god, but with a human being … and just as you have millions of imperfections … the same has also that magic person that you fall in love with. It’s a book that defines the fact that we should accept the things just as they are … and love with an opened heart … no matter what is going on. The nice part is that the book is not a collection of imaginary stories … but essays that talks about a real story between 2 adults that wants to redefine and also restart their lives … but in the end just enjoy the fact that they met … losing any expectation at all as the story to become a real one. Today you are happy, tomorrow you are not .. and the essays describes this in a very honest, but also beautiful way … all those amazing moments spent together.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru’s CONNECTION … NOT CONNECTIONS is a thoughtful and introspective exploration of what it truly means to form deep, meaningful connections in a world that often prioritizes superficial networking. This collection of essays acts as a form of self-therapy for the author, who embarks on a journey to answer the questions that have long troubled him—questions that many of us ask but rarely attempt to answer with such honesty and depth.
At the core of this book is Dumitru’s attempt to define the elusive concept of “connection.” What does it mean to genuinely connect with another person? How do we differentiate between authentic relationships and those that are built on convenience or social obligation? These reflections are not just philosophical musings; they are deeply personal, born from the author’s desire to understand the difference between fleeting interactions and true, lasting bonds.
Beyond these central questions, Dumitru confronts some of the most challenging aspects of human relationships, grappling with issues like “Is monogamy possible?” and “Can we manage our fantasies while in a relationship?” These inquiries invite readers to reflect on the nature of commitment, desire, and emotional honesty in their own lives. The author doesn’t shy away from examining the tension between our desires for connection and the complex emotions—passion, obsession, and fantasy—that can both enrich and complicate relationships.
One of the book’s most striking elements is the author’s raw exploration of passion and obsession—those intense forces that often drive our most meaningful relationships, but that can also lead us down “pathless paths.” The author deftly examines how these emotions impact both the individual and their relationships, blending personal insight with philosophical reflection in a way that feels deeply relatable.
For anyone seeking a meaningful exploration of relationships, connection, and self-awareness, CONNECTION … NOT CONNECTIONS is a must-read. Dumitru’s ability to merge introspection with universally relevant questions about feelings and desire makes this book a transformative journey—one that will resonate with readers long after they turn the final page.
CONNECTION … NOT CONNECTIONS: essays about useless … amazing pathless paths
Four questions kept repeating into my mind, for a long, long time … and i’ve decided to write the book called “Connection … not connections” …. as a reply … first of all for myself. Yes … I prefer to write … cause is a much better way to understand my perceptions. …. and i already do it by a long time, all being soft of a self therapy … defining all my thoughts… even if most of them are so, so contradictory… The number one question is what the hell is this weird concept called … connection?! … and what is its meaning?! Well … more i think about it … i become more and more confused. I have moments when i believe i had found the real truth … but also moments when i am just disappointed of my disability of penetrating deeper the secrets of life. The only real thing that i know for sure … is that the spiritual connection is the one that can help us … get rid of all related with the illusory of life. And going deeper …. seeing all sorts of connections … i ask again … what is a love story?! What is its meaning?! Why we feel so, so changed when we find that person which we call …. soulmate?! What is happening with us … while being into such a connection …. but also why the hell we realise into the end that all was illusory?! I smile … but … again … no matter what ideas would come into my mind … i still feel that actually this is not really a path to follow. And i’m writing that … after personally testing all what i am saying … I continue my meditations and into my mind appears a much weird idea … revealed by the people which are feeling good together … but still after an experience of life … after being involved into lots of relationships… knowing the fact that after a while …. even the most beautiful love story becomes boring …. and being realistic enough … they start allowing themselves to practice the art of being a swinger. And i will not bother to explain the concept… cause everyone knows it … but it’s probably a way of accepting… that we actually need to taste more than one energy. They simple can’t stay …. just in one connection… adoring to occasionally taste other souls too … The theory itself … looks so, so weird. … and immoral of course. But … on the other hand … can be accepted consciously… or … by force … Cause … yes … cheating is not immoral … but a simple result of the fact the energy of the connection with the partner … is not anymore all we wanted … and actually needed for having the soul fulfilled with beautiful vibes. So … i could even say that the swingers are actually… wise persons. Many would judge me … for saying such a thing … but … But i continue my analyses … and i dare to ask myself … how the hell lives a monk alone into the monastery?! How can a human being live without a partner of life?! Is that really possible for us to live without the connection of the opposite sex?! I found that as … weird too … but somehow i’ve felt that life itself has many stages of evolution. Some … find themselves into a relationship … which gives them all they ever dreamed about. All the necessary energy comes from that story … making them happy all the time. Others … being honest enough … with a lot of experience of life … admitting the truth that only one type of energy is never enough for their souls … go on the path of allowing themselves to taste other souls too. … at least from time to time. And i see the monk … but even if in my perceptions this was a too weird scenario … i start to realise that the monk is actually chasing for the connection with the absolute. He was most probably like all the other humans … having desires, wishes, lots of values in common with the society… but abandoned all seeing its ephemerality. The new purpose was only to chase for the infinite connection … meanwhile … into the real world … practising the solitude… But even if i write all those questions … with an answer to each of them …. i know i did not find the real answer. No … And it’s even worst … cause i feel that i am too far away … of the absolute truth, the result being that into my real life … i am actually in connection… in connections … or disappointed of all … i see myself practicing … the solitude… disconnecting from everything and everyone … having the hope that … the real path to follow in life will be revealed to me.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru’s INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED takes readers on a exploration of the subtle and often unseen forces shaping our lives.
The author dissects the psychology of influence, weaving together the complexities of how we impact and are impacted by the world around us. This book is not just a study of influence—it’s a guide to understanding the ebb and flow of energy, thought, and expectation in both personal and professional level.
With his assertion that we can influence reality by expecting something totally different, he brilliantly highlights how can actively change our realities by shifting our mindset.
One of the strengths of the book is the author’s ability to translate complex psychological and philosophical ideas into accessible language. From the first chapter, the reader is hooked by his clear, engaging style and the way he relates abstract concepts to everyday life. Whether you’re interested in personal development, leadership, or simply becoming more mindful of how you’re being influenced, this book offers valuable tools to enhance your understanding.
This a must-read for those looking to enhance their effectiveness and personal growth in any leadership role.
Overall, INFLUENCING AND BEING INFLUENCED invites you to reframe how you perceive and interact with the world. Dumitru’s engaging style and insightful observations make this book a captivating journey into the endless dance of influence.
Influencing and being influenced: a non ending story (ESSAYS – contradictory perceptions about love, philosophy, spirituality, motivation … and life in general Book 48)
“In many of the occasions in life, we see everything in a simple dogmatic way. We are used with different kinds of results and believe that these represents the only case scenarios that can happen. We want something else, but don’t really believe that life can bring us the … goodies. We predict the future, according to the past. But you know, same story, with the same elements can also have a different result than we are used to expect. We can influence reality … just by expecting something totally different that we used to have. For example … there are cases when the Universe is sending us the same lesson on and on and on … till the day when we understand that we need to do things differently to get a different result … and improve everything happens. Sometimes we are good theoreticians, sometimes we can’t even see clearly reality and understand the meaning of the events … especially the negative ones. But having optimistic standards can help us break any problem … and in the end influence the energetic field of any situation, event .. or even the energetic field of other people. And when i use the term … energetic field … i mean the environment itself, with all its attributes that defines everything in a certain way. I can give a simple example. I was in a morning in my garden, reading a book. I was on a chair, in a specific place from my garden … and i use to use that place by almost 10 years. From that point, i see the beauty of my garden in a specific way, but because it was a very hot day, and the sun came in that point, i had to move the chair in a different place from the garden, not to stay anymore in the sun. I was amazed. I almost saw a different garden from that position. I loved it … but everything was a totally different perspective. This was a simple case scenario … seeing even something beautiful, from a different angle and almost believe is something else. But in theory, and even in practice, we can have even negative perspectives totally metamorphosized into positive one. We can change the script of any scenario, by re-evaluate everything … just by expecting of getting a positive result … the one we desire. This is how, only by having an opened mind, ignoring the statistical datas from your past, the one that defines the probability of having a certain scenario … we can actually influence, but also change the reality itself. And what we define as miracle … is in fact just changing the believe into the fact that … life can be also the way we dare to dream. Truth be told, the reality can be created or even re-created in any way we want it to happen. All we need to do is to connect to that energetic field, which actually means … be one with the present moment … and expect as everything should happen in a specific way that you want. Even the miracle itself is just a different result … the one that we had in mind and wanted. So … realities can be defined, redefined, but also written in any specific way. A hollywoodian movie … has amazing scenes and all the scenes are a telling the details of the story … so that it will have a powerful message, but also powerful impact on you. You connect with the reality of those scenes, but most probably the same scene was filmed by 5th – 7th … even 15th times, till they considered they had the perfect one. The same way, certain events could be redefined by us, just by meditating, finding the best solution for that event … and then implemented in the real life. And try … and try again … till the moment it just happens. And the life can look like a hollywoodian movie also … by using the power of re-evaluation, re-defining and keeping an opened mind, expecting all the time positive scenarios for our lives. We are the creators of our reality … by conscious or unconscious thoughts … but in the end we should keep in our mind that what looks like a negative script, might be just a life lesson … not finding yet the right path in life … but every scenario can be re written in the way we want it to happen. The key?! I mean the key of getting out of the labyrinth … is connecting to that reality … that energetic field … and have great expectations from it. So … even if you don’t know it yet … there is an art of influencing reality and you can learn it.”
In Mr. & Mrs. FREUD, Adrian Gabriel Dumitru takes readers on a compelling psychological journey through the complex dynamics of love, intimacy, and the human mind. Drawing from Freudian theory and blending it with his own reflections, the author weaves a narrative that is part philosophical musing and part psychological exploration.
One of the most fascinating aspects of this book is Dumitru’s willingness to grapple with both the beauty and frustrations of love. Having sworn off writing about love after twenty previous books on the subject, he returns with a fresh, ironic awareness—this time through the metaphor of psychological “games” that lovers often play. Freud, with his groundbreaking theories on the subconscious, serves as the perfect backdrop for this investigation into the mental acrobatics that couples often engage in, knowingly or unknowingly.
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What makes this work stand out is the accessibility of the complex psychological theories Dumitru explores. The writing is insightful without becoming overbearingly academic, allowing both the seasoned psychology enthusiast and the casual reader to find value in his reflections. Dumitru deftly navigates concepts like repression, projection, and defense mechanisms while keeping the tone personal and relatable.
At its core, Mr. & Mrs. FREUD is about the delicate balance of power and vulnerability that comes with love. The author captures the paradoxes of human relationships—the desire for intimacy paired with the need for autonomy, the games people play to protect themselves, and the unconscious battles for control.
If you’ve ever found yourself intrigued by the psychology behind relationships, or if you’re simply a lover of thought-provoking, introspective writing, this book will resonate deeply with you. Dumitru’s musings are both poetic and grounded in psychological depth, making Mr. & Mrs. FREUD an engaging and enlightening read.
Mr & Mrs FREUD: in love… but still playing psychological games (ESSAYS – contradictory perceptions about love, philosophy, spirituality, motivation… and life in general Book 13)
“I’ve wrote many books about love … being in love, but also hating the concept of love … and even promised myself that i’ll never do that again … but … Well … into one point … after publishing 20 books of love essays … i’ve had a very serious discussion with myself and … Yes … i’ve said it again that i’ll not write again about love …. But … damn it … i just loved the concept. I loved all related to …. love. And even if i knew that a love story is many times … illusory … and might ruin completely our souls … destroying them forever … I’ve continued to write my perceptions about the subject. The funny thing is that … promising myself i’ll never be again into a love story … i’ve started to analyse the couples i saw on the stage of my life. And what was intriguing me the most was why a man and a woman … even when the love between them is so damn obvious… still do stupid things … which are actually ruining all?! Why if both of them are in love of each other …. what the hell could be the meaning of the non sense psychological games we are doing?! And even worst … why do we see very intelligent people … playing so, so stupid on that stage of a love story? Why do they need to do stupid things?! Why they jump from love to hate so easily?! Also … why the hell … even the ones knowing a lot about psychology … don’t do the right things?! And had many occasions to see people which I’ll generally define as Mr and Mrs Freud … practicing the nonsense into a love story …. on and on and on. The final question remains … why?! I could not find a real answer… but i’ve dared to continue analysing and defining into my writings …. the subject. Into the end … maybe i could declare that i don’t really have a conclusion …. but i love to talk about love. The subject itself … is intriguing my soul. So …. I went deeper and deeper into my essays… being obsessed of a hope similar with the one of … touching the horizon line. It’s maybe … ridiculous … but .. i give myself the freedom to suffer of this addiction.”
A book and a cup of coffee 