Adrian Gabriel Dumitru’s CONNECTION … NOT CONNECTIONS is a thoughtful and introspective exploration of what it truly means to form deep, meaningful connections in a world that often prioritizes superficial networking. This collection of essays acts as a form of self-therapy for the author, who embarks on a journey to answer the questions that have long troubled him—questions that many of us ask but rarely attempt to answer with such honesty and depth.
At the core of this book is Dumitru’s attempt to define the elusive concept of “connection.” What does it mean to genuinely connect with another person? How do we differentiate between authentic relationships and those that are built on convenience or social obligation? These reflections are not just philosophical musings; they are deeply personal, born from the author’s desire to understand the difference between fleeting interactions and true, lasting bonds.
Beyond these central questions, Dumitru confronts some of the most challenging aspects of human relationships, grappling with issues like “Is monogamy possible?” and “Can we manage our fantasies while in a relationship?” These inquiries invite readers to reflect on the nature of commitment, desire, and emotional honesty in their own lives. The author doesn’t shy away from examining the tension between our desires for connection and the complex emotions—passion, obsession, and fantasy—that can both enrich and complicate relationships.
One of the book’s most striking elements is the author’s raw exploration of passion and obsession—those intense forces that often drive our most meaningful relationships, but that can also lead us down “pathless paths.” The author deftly examines how these emotions impact both the individual and their relationships, blending personal insight with philosophical reflection in a way that feels deeply relatable.
For anyone seeking a meaningful exploration of relationships, connection, and self-awareness, CONNECTION … NOT CONNECTIONS is a must-read. Dumitru’s ability to merge introspection with universally relevant questions about feelings and desire makes this book a transformative journey—one that will resonate with readers long after they turn the final page.
CONNECTION … NOT CONNECTIONS: essays about useless … amazing pathless paths
Four questions kept repeating into my mind, for a long, long time … and i’ve decided to write the book called “Connection … not connections” …. as a reply … first of all for myself. Yes … I prefer to write … cause is a much better way to understand my perceptions. …. and i already do it by a long time, all being soft of a self therapy … defining all my thoughts… even if most of them are so, so contradictory… The number one question is what the hell is this weird concept called … connection?! … and what is its meaning?! Well … more i think about it … i become more and more confused. I have moments when i believe i had found the real truth … but also moments when i am just disappointed of my disability of penetrating deeper the secrets of life. The only real thing that i know for sure … is that the spiritual connection is the one that can help us … get rid of all related with the illusory of life. And going deeper …. seeing all sorts of connections … i ask again … what is a love story?! What is its meaning?! Why we feel so, so changed when we find that person which we call …. soulmate?! What is happening with us … while being into such a connection …. but also why the hell we realise into the end that all was illusory?! I smile … but … again … no matter what ideas would come into my mind … i still feel that actually this is not really a path to follow. And i’m writing that … after personally testing all what i am saying … I continue my meditations and into my mind appears a much weird idea … revealed by the people which are feeling good together … but still after an experience of life … after being involved into lots of relationships… knowing the fact that after a while …. even the most beautiful love story becomes boring …. and being realistic enough … they start allowing themselves to practice the art of being a swinger. And i will not bother to explain the concept… cause everyone knows it … but it’s probably a way of accepting… that we actually need to taste more than one energy. They simple can’t stay …. just in one connection… adoring to occasionally taste other souls too … The theory itself … looks so, so weird. … and immoral of course. But … on the other hand … can be accepted consciously… or … by force … Cause … yes … cheating is not immoral … but a simple result of the fact the energy of the connection with the partner … is not anymore all we wanted … and actually needed for having the soul fulfilled with beautiful vibes. So … i could even say that the swingers are actually… wise persons. Many would judge me … for saying such a thing … but … But i continue my analyses … and i dare to ask myself … how the hell lives a monk alone into the monastery?! How can a human being live without a partner of life?! Is that really possible for us to live without the connection of the opposite sex?! I found that as … weird too … but somehow i’ve felt that life itself has many stages of evolution. Some … find themselves into a relationship … which gives them all they ever dreamed about. All the necessary energy comes from that story … making them happy all the time. Others … being honest enough … with a lot of experience of life … admitting the truth that only one type of energy is never enough for their souls … go on the path of allowing themselves to taste other souls too. … at least from time to time. And i see the monk … but even if in my perceptions this was a too weird scenario … i start to realise that the monk is actually chasing for the connection with the absolute. He was most probably like all the other humans … having desires, wishes, lots of values in common with the society… but abandoned all seeing its ephemerality. The new purpose was only to chase for the infinite connection … meanwhile … into the real world … practising the solitude… But even if i write all those questions … with an answer to each of them …. i know i did not find the real answer. No … And it’s even worst … cause i feel that i am too far away … of the absolute truth, the result being that into my real life … i am actually in connection… in connections … or disappointed of all … i see myself practicing … the solitude… disconnecting from everything and everyone … having the hope that … the real path to follow in life will be revealed to me.
A book and a cup of coffee 