Successful author and entrepreneur Tasher on ‘Divorced and Scared No More’

INTERVIEW

Today we are excited to share with you our interview with Tasher, an American author and entrepreneur. Tasher along with co-author Tony Haynes published a 3 book series called ‘Divorced and Scared No More’. The main objective of this book series was to help in dealing with a divorce.

Tasher was divorced on her 26th wedding anniversary. Her marriage was broken all to pieces, however she was not going to let the divorce break her. Tasher quickly discovered that single life was very different from all those years ago. Like many, she initially was scared. Yet she was determined to become Divorce and Scared NO More!

After moving to Houston and despite her dyslexia, she decided to share with others things she learned while rebuilding her life. The launch of DASNM.com quickly received a worldwide following and Tasher became a frequent contributor to various online magazines.

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–          But who exactly is Tasher?

“I was born in Flint, Michigan to Mary and Houston Asher. I have one older brother named C. Robert Asher. I am a country and city girl.  Our family lived on a farm that to this day still is a dirt road in Linden, Michigan until I was in middle school. At which time my family moved to the suburbs of Flint so my parents could be closer to the factories they worked in.  Mom worked for Chevrolet at the Metal Fab plant and Dad worked in Buick City on the North end.”

 

–          What have your challenges been having Dyslexia?

“I suffered from undiagnosed dyslexia until my high school teacher, Ms. Burdick recognized the symptoms and sent me for diagnoses. Ms. Burdick had a big impact forming my view of the reading disorder. She taught me how to use various strategies and techniques along with technical aids to help with the management of dyslexia. Within a short time, she taught me how it really was a gift that I just needed to learn to control.”

 

–          Did you really graduate college in 4 years while getting 3 degrees?

“After learning to control my gift my grades quickly improved and I graduated Ainsworth high school with a scholarship.  I attended Northwood University in Midland, Michigan did graduate in four years with three degrees.  They were Business management, Advertising and Automotive Marketing.  Upon graduation I was hired by General Motors Corporation in their Memphis Zone.  I really don’t look at dyslexia as a challenge it is rather my gift.  Once I learned to control it I excelled very quickly.”

Once I learned to control it
I excelled very quickly

 

–          How did you decide to pursue a writing career?

“I have dyslexia and writing is something everyone told me I couldn’t do especially my ex.  So after my divorced and with the encouragement of friends, family and my divorce attorney, I decided it was time to try.”

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–          Tell us a little about your married life?

“I married my ex-husband on January 14, 1984 in Columbus, Mississippi. We had 3 children together.  He was a pilot in the USAF and relocated from Columbus Mississippi to San Antonio Texas. At which time I decided to quit my job as a district manager for General Motors Parts Division and became a stay at home mother. Our family lived in Memphis, Tennessee, Subic Bay, Philippines, and Boulder City, Nevada. My ex and I divorced on our twenty-sixth wedding anniversary January 14, 2010.”

 

–          What inspired you to write the Divorce and Scared No More series and start the website?

“I was not going to let the divorce break me. I decided to share with others the things I learned while rebuilding my life.  After moving to Houston, I launched the website and became a frequent contributor to various online magazines. I wanted to create something for people to take the ideas and either accept or reject them to fit in their personal situation. No two people will have identical situations, but in time, my hope is that with the shared experiences they can help guide others through this time in their life with the least amount of trepidation. Along with co-author Tony Haynes we published a 3 book series called ‘Divorced and Scared No More’. The main objective of this book series was to help in dealing life after divorce in the same manner the website has done. Hopefully to reduce the fear and anxiety in the lives of the recently divorced. Therapist and clinical author Justin Nutt, LSCSW, LAC, was consulted as a technical advisor for the series.”

The main objective of this book series
was to help in dealing life after divorce

 

–          How did you get so much information and stories? How do people react when they read about themselves?

“As I started sharing my experiences, others in-turn shared some of their stories. Many have allowed me to share those experiences, but out of respect for their privacy, and anyone that I have written about, some of the information in the stories have been changed. The intent of the website and books is to share while making sure everyone is comfortable, and without fear of reprisals.  Most of the people I have written about have approved of the text before it was published to make sure they are fine with what I have written.”

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–          My take on the series is the first book is about healing and the second is about as the title says practical advice.  Both have various topics in the books.  The third book is fun and about dating.  Why did you decide to write the whole book about just how to date?

“After my divorce and healing was accomplished, I decided to date.  Very quickly I discovered that single life was very different from all those years ago. There was not an internet back then, and cell phones didn’t exist. Like many, I initially was scared to date and online dating scared me to death.  I decided to treat dating like I would a business adventure.  I set up a plan of how to date yet continue to keep myself and my family safe.  The third book has all of the information on how to be a perspicacious dater.”

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[pur-spi-key-shuh s]

 

–          What is a perspicacious dater?

“While dating after my divorce, I wanted to be discerning, have keen mental perception, vision and understanding in my dating. The word that sums all those attributes up is perspicacious [pur-spi-key-shuh s]. It is time to learn a new word and a new way to date.”

 

–          How did you come up with the title?

“The name of the series as a continuation of the website.  The name for the website is to help people understand there is no reason to be scared post-divorce.  Now is the time to make your life yours and do what you want.  Create a life where you are in control and if you need help look to your higher power to forge the new life you will enjoy.”

Create a life
where you are in control

 

–          What genre is your books?

“The series is for self-help in dealing with life after divorce and dating.”

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–          The logo is very interesting; how did you come up it?

“The logo for the website and books is a broken set of pilot wings.  My ex-husband was a pilot and when they get their first set of wings in the USAF they break them in half and give one half to someone they love and the other half is thrown away. The point is those wings will never come together again.  Just like our marriage after the divorce.”

 

–          What do you like to do when you’re not writing?

“My daughter and two grandchildren live in the Houston area by me and my spare time is enjoying watching the wee ones’ activities.  My family is my world and I enjoy as much time with them as I can have.”

Writing is something
everyone told me
I couldn’t do
especially my ex

 

–          What influenced your interest in writing?

“I have always enjoyed telling stories but since I have dyslexia spelling and grammar are NOT my strong suit.    Writing is something everyone told me I couldn’t do especially my ex.  So after my divorce and with the encouragement of friends, family and my divorce attorney, I decided it was time to try.”

 

–          What tips or words of encouragement do you have for other writers?

“No matter what your challenge is while writing stick with your passion.  Do not listen to others that say you can’t…….if they say that to you think to yourself wanna bet!  You can do anything you want to do but be prepared that you may have to work a little harder or find tools that can help you.”

You can do anything you want to do
but be prepared that
you may have to work
a little harder

 

KEEP IN TOUCH WITH TASHER

Website: http://divorcedandscarednomore.com/

or  http://dasnm.com/

Pick up your copy of each of the books in the
Divorce & Scared No More series now

Book 1 Divorced and Scared No More!: Emotional Support for the Newly Divorced

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Book 2 Divorced and Scared No More!: Practical Advice for the Newly Divorced

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Book 3 Divorced and Scared No More!: Dating after Divorce From Lemons to Zesty Lemon Sorbet

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“Touch of Iron” author Timandra Whitecastle on the dark world of “The Living Blade”

INTERVIEW

The Living Blade” Book series has become my latest reading addiction. If you want to find out why I rave about it, please read my review for “Touch of Iron – The Living Blade Book 1” (click here). I got so obsessed with the world that Nora, Owen, Master Diaz, and prince Bashan live in that I wanted to know more about its creator, debut author Timandra Whitecastle.

Our little chat was such a fun and it couldn’t have been otherwise. The girl loves Star Wars and Loki!

So, literary world, I’m giving you Timandra Whitecastle! 

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– Who exactly are you?

“Timandra Whitecastle, liliam inter spinas. (Hah!)”
– How did you decide to pursue a writing career?

“I remember this moment of decision well. I’ve always been writing stories for myself, dabbled in fanfiction, too (won’t say which fandom, though). But I had just become a mother for the first time, and to pass the time nursing, I read. A lot. I remember closing Joe Abercrombie’s final volume of the First Law trilogy (Last Argument of Kings), and besides being impressed, I remember thinking: wouldn’t it be cool if there were books like this with female heroes? I don’t mean heroines, by the way, I mean heroes, tragically flawed and broken, struggling as much with their inner conflict as with the external conflicts around them. So I searched and cast about, looking for that kind of book. But alas, I finally came to realize that perhaps I had to write the kind of book I wanted to read. So I did.”

– Was getting published hard?

“Yes and no. The traditional way through agents and publishing houses is plastered with rejection and the souls of talented writers crushed to pieces on the rocks below.  So I chose to self-publish (because I’m also a control freak.) Self-publishing seems easy at first, right? I mean, how hard can it be to write a novel, slap a cover on it, upload it to Amazon, and ta-daaa, you’re self-published, right? Well, yes. And no. The journey is the destination. Getting self-published just means you have to do all the quality control yourself: get an editor, get beta readers, a copy editor, a proof reader, get an artist for your cover, etc. The good thing is, a lot of people become involved on the way, and they ensure that when you do hit publish, you’ve got a damn good product to sell. So, yes, it’s hard, but a very enriching experience.”

If you have casting suggestions,
tweet them @timwhitecastle

– Are your characters based on people you know?

“There’s a great scene towards the end of Hermann Hesse’s Steppenwolf: the main character Harry sees himself disintegrate into many Harrys, each a whole, but also a facet of himself. Hesse then writes (I’m paraphrasing because I only know it in German) It’s a mistake and a cause of sadness to believe a person is a constant, whole entity. We exist in the form of many souls, many I’s. […] You can piece together the individual parts at any time and in any order, to thus demonstrate the endless plurality of life. So, in short, the answer to your question is, yes, the characters are all based on a person I happen to know very well, myself. Yes, even the villains.”

– What genre is your book?

“It’s grimdark epic fantasy.”

My characters are all based on a person
I happen to know very well,
myself,
even the villains

– Which of your books is your most favorite?

Well, I’d say it’s always the next one I’m writing … The great thing about writing a series is building on what came before, and spinning the tale further.”

– Do you have a specific writing routine?

“Alas, no. Although it’s my goal to one day become a full-time writer one day, I have a day job as a teacher, and I have two small kids. I’d like to say I have a goal of writing/ editing 500 words a day. But … I sometimes can’t write daily. I’m too busy living. And when I do buy out the time to write, I don’t put my “butt in chair and just write” until I hit a certain word count.

I mean, maybe it helps to have “a room of one’s own” to write in peace and quiet for a certain time period every day. Maybe it’s good to set the goal of x amount of words before allowing yourself to call it a day. But maybe it also drives you mad and you end up killing yourself like Virginia or Earnest. I wouldn’t know because I don’t work like that.

I work like this: I make an effort to carve some time out of each day to think about what I’m working on AND keep an open mind to all the life and characters happening around me that may inform my writing in deep and meaningful ways. In movies, this would be the pre-production stage. Or pre-viz. I’m basically setting myself up for the actual writing process so that when I do have the time to sit down and write my guts out, there’s enough raw material there to catch with a bucket.

Also I read. Daily. Like I breathe. It fuels me. It’s not only that it sharpens my mind, to quote Tyrion Lannister, but also because without input, you cannot have output.”

I finally came to realize that perhaps
I had to write the kind of book
I wanted to read

– What are your current projects?

“The second volume of The Living Blade series, as yet untitled. The first half is done and will be with the beta readers soon, and I’m half way through the second half. (Hmmm. Lots of halves in that sentence.)”

-What’s next for you?

I’m going to try and write a few short(er) stories in the same world to give away for free and thus build my email list …”

– Where do you draw inspiration from?

I’ll do the author thing and say: everywhere. Books I read, shows I see, movies I watch, people I observe, the landscape I live in. The truth is, though, some inspiration is describable, some just isn’t. The describable part is like this: I love reading, and I’m a fan of any kind of mythology. So there’s a well deep enough to never run dry. It helps, too, that I studied history and literature, so I have a detailed understanding of pre-industrial revolution societies that maybe most people do not have (and I know where to find the books that answer my questions when I don’t know something. Hooray for university libraries!)

For much of the actual story structure, well, I do own Joseph Campbell’s Hero with a Thousand Faces, but I love his mythology books far more.

And besides, what really helps is just keeping your eyes open, listening to and lovingly observing human behaviour, and recognizing the ways your characters would actually behave. People are people everywhere.”

I read
Daily
Like I breathe
It fuels me

– If your book becomes a movie, which actors should play the leading roles?

That’s a really tough question. But only because I’m not very up-to-date with the stars out there. I’d love to see an Amazon original series of my books, though I have little ideas to casting choice. But if you have suggestions, tweet them @timwhitecastle. I’ll tell you if you’re way off. (That said, I do love Tom Hiddleston’s portrayal of Loki, though, and I based one of my er … villainous characters on that damn good acting.)”

– Your favourite authors?

I have a freight train load of influences from all over the place. The strongest are those writers that made such a deep impression on my mind that I wanted to write my own stories. There are many honorary mentions, really, but these following three had the strongest impact. I’ll do this chronologically.

The obvious first: Star Wars. Yeah. I belong to the generation of people who grew up on Episodes 4, 5, and 6  – to the point where I had seen the movies so often, I not only knew every single line, but also the little details in the background. However, I soon wasn’t satisfied with only replaying Luke’s adventures. I wanted to create my own. That moment of ownage was an important one, I believe, as it was the first time I consciously thought: I want to tell stories (and become a Jedi when I grow up. So, thanks, George Lucas.)

Next: Tolkien, obviously. I love the Lord of the Rings and could say many good things about it, but … The Silmarillion has become a touchstone in my life. I read it every year at least once, or parts of it every now and again just to check and see if I still am who I was when I was fifteen. (I’m not, of course, but my core has proven strangely resilient to all that life has thrown at me so far.) I’m a big mythology geek anyway, so reading The Silmarillion was an eye-opener – you could do this with fiction, too? Awesome.

Another big influencer was Chuck Palahniuk, but in a different way. I read Fight Club when I was seventeen and impressionable. And I’m so glad I did – I don’t know whether it would have had the same effect later on in life. The minimalistic writing, the force of the words that punch you in the face with truisms that again struck a chord deep within – it changed the way I read. Now, I do read a lot. It’s like a drug and I do withdrawal very badly. But what I’m secretly addicted to is that raw kick-in-the-head-style of enlightenment that gives me insight on myself. And Fight Club did that for me. However, some of Palahniuk’s stuff I consciously side-step because I know the effect his words will have on my mind for a long time (like Guts was disgusting. I will never be able to eat calamari again.)”

It’s not
who I am underneath,
but what I do that defines me

– What are you currently reading?

It’s a weird mix. Right now, I’ve just finished Mark Lawrence’s The Liar’s Key (grimdark fantasy), and have moved on to Jonathan French’s The Grey Bastards (also self-published grimdark fantasy), then I’m looking forward to Timandra Harkness’ Big Data. Does size matter? /shrug”

– What’s your favourite life motto?

“I will quote Batman on this: It’s not who I am underneath, but what I do that defines me.”

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Is the Living Blade real or just a legend? With it… Prince Bashan could win back his kingdom. Master Telen Diaz can free himself of the burden from his past. Owen Smith sees a once-in-a-lifetime chance to gain untold knowledge. … but for Noraya Smith, the Living Blade will bring nothing but suffering and sorrow.

“Realistic, character-driven fantasy that manages to both sever limbs and warm the heart.” – Kirkus Reviews

BUY LINKS

US: http://www.amazon.com/Touch-Iron-Living-Blade-1/dp/1533080437/

Germany: https://www.amazon.de/Touch-Iron-Living-Blade-English-ebook/dp/B01ES9AQL6/

UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Touch-Iron-1-Living-Blade/dp/1533080437/

AUS: https://www.amazon.com.au/Touch-Iron-Living-Blade-Book-ebook/dp/B01ES9AQL6/

‘Touch of Iron – The Living Blade #1’ by Timandra Whitecastle

REVIEW

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Honestly, I fell in love with this book. It’s well written, packed with action and trust me, there is never a dull moment. Timandra Whitecastle’s writing style is exquisite, vocabulary-rich, cliché-free; vivid and realistic descriptions are the author’s strong point.

The storyline is captivating, one unpredicted twist after another, it keeps you wondering what’s next. In a book with so main characters out of the box, a bold female lead outstands. Nora is a strong fearless girl (in an Arya Stark way of awesomeness) while Owen is a boy who’s not that much into weapons as he is into books.

When I started reading ‘Touch of Iron’ I couldn’t predict the turn the storyline would take. I didn’t expect the characters to evolve and change so dramatically after finding themselves bogged down in an ominous and menacing situation. What started as a Young Adult fantasy story ended a dark, epic and edgy story, with unexpected twists and unpredictable premise, written masterfully, flawlessly.

Very impressive for a first-time author and I can’t wait to read the next book in the series.

BUY LINKS

US: http://www.amazon.com/Touch-Iron-Living-Blade-1/dp/1533080437/

Germany: https://www.amazon.de/Touch-Iron-Living-Blade-English-ebook/dp/B01ES9AQL6/

UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Touch-Iron-1-Living-Blade/dp/1533080437/

AUS: https://www.amazon.com.au/Touch-Iron-Living-Blade-Book-ebook/dp/B01ES9AQL6/